Are Your Children Safe?

A parent’s worst fear is having their child irreversibly hurt in such a way that leaves emotional scars for life.  Sexual assault is a perfect example of such a fear.  Unfortunately, much of what we know regarding sexual assault against children is based on myths. As a result, some of our fears are unwarranted while other beliefs leave our children unprotected. 

What You Know: Fact or Fiction

The people behind Megan’s Law in California have put together a great quiz to test your knowledge about sex offenders. Take the quiz to find out how much of what you know is accurate or based on myths. Then come back here for some tips on how to keep your children safe.

Here are a couple questions that cover some of the most common misconceptions we’ve come across:

Most child sexual abusers use physical force or threat to gain compliance from their victims.

False. In the majority of cases, abusers gain access to their victims through deception and enticement, seldom using force. Abuse typically occurs within a long-term, ongoing relationship between the offender and victim and escalates over time.

Most child sexual abusers find their victims by frequenting such places as schoolyards and playgrounds.

False. Most child sexual abusers offend against children whom they know and with whom they have established a relationship.

Most men who commit sexual offenses do not know their victim.

False. 90% of child victims know their offender, with almost half of the offenders being a family member. Of sexual assaults against people age 12 and up, approximately 80% of the victims know the offender.

Child sexual abusers are only attracted to children and are not capable of appropriate sexual relationships.

False. While there is a small subset of child sexual abusers who are exclusively attracted to children, the majority of the individuals who sexually abuse children are (or have previously been) attracted to adults.

Only men commit sexual assault.

False. While most sex offenders are male, sometimes sex offenses are committed by female offenders.

• Megan’s Law—Facts about Sex Offenders [California Office of Attorney General]

Did you pass this small portion of the quiz?  Flying colors or not, you are now armed with factual information. This is invaluable when teaching your kids how to protect themselves. 

Safety Tips—Teach Your Children

• Knowledge is power. Parents, you can educate yourself about those known offenders who reside in your community by contacting your local law enforcement agency.
• Remember, most sexual assaults are committed by someone the victim knows. A stranger doesn’t pose the highest risk to your children. 80-95% of sex offenders are known to their victims.  This includes relatives, friends and authority figures such as teachers and coaches.  Communicate with your children that if they feel uncomfortable in someone’s presence, to trust their instincts. Take steps to distance themselves from him or her. Don’t be afraid to make a scene if necessary. Many assault victims report that they were too polite. Tell someone!
• Avoid high-risk situations. Be observant and aware of your surroundings. Avoid poorly lit areas where an attacker might hide. Identify safe people in your neighborhood that you or your children can go to if you need help. Be thoughtful and use good judgment in choosing your friends and partners. Be cautious about making personal contact with those you meet on the internet.

Great Place to Start

The Federal Bureau of Investigation—Crimes Against Children is an invaluable website.  From here you can choose any state.  Each states’ website provides a wealth of information including sex offender facts, warning signs, victim services, community notification process, contact information, etc. Also, the Center For Missing And Exploited Children is another fantastic resource offering registry websites, child safety information and related news links.

A Resource at Your Fingertips!

Be sure to set yourself up on RAIDS Online to receive email notifications about crime occurring in your area.  You can designate a specific radius from your home address and specify crime types of your interest, such as sexual assaults. It’s that easy!